I heard something on the radio the other day. A woman was talking about a study that was done. It found that a mother’s biggest worry is always that something will happen to her child. And a father’s biggest worry is that he won’t be able to provide for his family. She was surprised, since she had never looked at it from her husband’s perspective.
Not surprising to me. Single moms? Seems to me that we carry both of those huge worries.
We are it.
We are the ones who do the comforting. We are the ones who bring home the paycheck. We are the ones who put on the band-aids and kiss the owies. We are the ones cleaning the house. We are the ones fixing the tv and paying the bills and doing the laundry and wiping the tears and lovingly teaching the hard lessons and working late into the night and instilling the values and being the grownup ALL THE TIME. We are the ones bringing home the bacon AND frying it up in a pan. And that is an awful lot for one woman to carry.
That’s why God doesn’t ask us to carry it alone.
God isn’t surprised by our circumstances, even when we are. We serve the God who is sovereign. In control of everything. He brings things into our lives, or allows them in our lives for His specific purpose. He uses all the things that happen in our lives to bring about His ultimate purpose for our lives.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
That means me. That means you. That means in every single detail of our lives, God is at work. Not just in the joyful things. Not just on the mountaintops. In ALL THINGS. Even on those hard days, when you don’t think you can make it as a single mom. Don’t give up. God is working in your life at this very moment. And this one. And the next. He isn’t stopping. He isn’t resting.
He who watches over Israel, will neither slumber nor sleep. Psalm 121:4
So the next time you are up late at night, long after your kiddos are in bed, working or cleaning or worrying. Stop. Take a breath. And remember that God is up with you. He didn’t go to sleep and leave you to carry the weight of the world. Lay it down at His feet. Ask Him to carry it for you.
I promise you He will. He has great plans for you. Listen to this…
Bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes,
the oil of joy instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord
for the display of his splendor. Isaiah 61:3
You may not see His hand at work right now. But He is creating your crown of beauty. You will be a display of His splendor.
He’s just not finished yet.